this one’s for the girls
Today, I realized how incredibly lucky I am to have such a good relationship.
I’m 19 and most girls my age (at least the ones I know of) are either:
-on and off constantly with their boyfriend
-settling for a terrible boyfriend because they don’t think they can find anyone else
-convincing themselves that “every couple fights all the time,” when, in fact, not every couple fights ALL the time.
-standing by while their boyfriend flirts, talks to, or looks at other girls in that certain way.
-being terrified to break it off with their boyfriend, because they’ve been together for so long.
-constantly telling themselves that “it will get better… we just need some work” when everyone knows the -relationship is just not meant to be.
-letting others think the relationship is perfect, when they know it is VERY far from perfect.
or just straight up letting themselves go on with a relationship that just doesn’t make them happy.
I know this not only because I hear about it constantly, but because I’ve experienced several of things all myself. I know what it’s like to feel stuck because you’re scared you won’t be able to make it without this certain person, or constantly trying to convince yourself that this person will change and that the relationship just needs some work, or even not thinking you can find anyone better. I know how this feels, and I know these are the cases for a lot of girls out there.
Well, I’m here to tell those girls something. You’re boyfriend, in most cases, is NOT going to get better. You WILL survive without them. And you WILL find someone better. All of you.
I now have a incredible relationship.
He and I lift each other up with encouragement and many, many compliments on a daily basis.
We support each others interests, and take part in all of them together.
We actually do not fight all the time.
We spend a ton of time together, and don’t get tired of each other.
We are spontaneous, and incredibly fun together.
We take the time to do thoughtful things for each other for no reason except to make the other happy.
and we both try to better ourselves not just for ourselves, but for the other.
And I believe everyone can have this relationship. Not just myself.
Also to the girls that absolutely have this relationship, but may be young like I am. I know some of you may have this problem, you love this certain person so much that you want EVERYONE to know. You enjoy spending time with this person, and you’d love to spend every day with him, too. Some people may think you’re a little obsessed.
Well, I have something for you girls too. Here’s a little not-so-secret: I’m one of you.
I talk about him quite often.
I brag about him often.
I enjoy having lots of pictures of him.
I do love spending as much time as I can with him.
And people often DO think I’m obsessed or naive…. that’s I’m just infatuated, maybe.
Well, I am in love. Absolutely.
I do this because I do not care what people think.
I want people to know that I genuinely care about this person.
I have no doubt in my mind that this is the person I’m going to be with for the rest of my life.
And I am not ashamed to show it.
No one should be.
So, if you really love and care about this certain person, show it when you want and how you want. There’s no use holding it back.
<3
